Good Life vs. Perfect Picture

What is it that you want in life?? Do you have things planned or are you freestyling life?? Im in just one of those deep thoughts today. I know we want to have good things to happen in our lives yet I wonder at times do we actually let life happen or we so focused on making things perfect & look good in front of people, and when things are “suppose” to be in certain ways, as I mean of “Good Life vs. Perfect Picture”.

I know that a lot of women (and some men) want that perfect relationship, but the question is how much stuff are you willing to take to stay in your so-called relationship or family? You may want to be shown as the image of a happy family, boyfriend & girlfriend, husband & wife, but what about certain issues?? Maybe if one of you are bored in the relationship, one of you come out of the closet, or even one of you have problems being faithful. I know that some people may want to get married because they feel if they don’t get married at a certain age, they might look bad in the eyes of other people, I think that’s why some of those ladies act crazy on Bridezillas. Some people are even avoiding marriage counseling because it may reveal things they pretended didn’t exist. Two Examples: 1) In Carl Weber’s So You Call Yourself a Man, the woman walks in the house & sees her hubby taking a blowjob from another man. Instead of accepting he was gay, she wanted to stay w/ him, even offered herself to anal sex & say he can pretend she was a man. 2) In Chasing Destiny, The wife wanted to stay w/ her husband, even when the husband did not want to be w/ her & he made another woman pregnant, even their daughter saw that the man was a whole lot happier when they were split, but the woman wanted that family together, at one point she even said she would allow the other woman to see him if that family could be together.

Its not just about the male & female in the relationship, sometimes kids are involved. A perfect picture of kids is they are good kids, making good grades, maybe great athletes, and may even get into & graduate college. In reality, there are some parents that deal with kids that go away from being what they want, it ranges from different things, kids behaving bad, kids coming out of the closet, even kids in interracial dating. A key thing is that sometimes kids inherit bad spirits from their parents, and some parents act like their kids are not going to act the same way they act, in reality, some kids may pick up bad habits. Even w/ good parents, some may get mad because their kids go a whole different route

I am a big fan of the show Mad Men, although I didn’t start watching it until Season 4. In the earlier seasons, the main character Don Draper & his wife gotten divorce, their 3 kids stayed with the wife, the wife remarries. She now married w/ a man that will help her take care of her 3 kids, she could be able to recover & be happily ever after but there are 2 certain things that’s making her look bad. 1) She is in denial that her daughter is affected by the divorce, she blames her child’s behavior on the death of her grandfather and 2) Although Don Draper is seeing & being there for his kids as a good father, you can see she is upset because he doing very well w/o her, she wanted Mr. Draper to be miserable w/o her around but he’s not. That “perfection” that she was looking for is her & her new hubby w/ 3 good kids, and she was looking for the ex to have a bad life after the divorce. But overall, I know we all may want that “perfect life”, but there may been times where a wrench is thrown in or something unexpected happens, but sometimes its not what happens, but on how we respond to it. And don’t rush things in your life, if it in God’s will & timing, it will happen if you let it.