I have been thinking of doing this type of post yet wanted
to get my thoughts together, yet then again I am the type that tries to rap on
top of my head.
Even when I watch
episodes of Jerry Springer (online, not at home), I get this idea.
When I was growing up in
Hot Springs, I knew I wanted to venture out
& see what else was out there, a key reason why I decided to get my
education at The University of Memphis.
I
got to see the differences in
Hot Springs &
Memphis, it was the size,
but because of the size, it was easier to see other things & variations as
well.
But also, I have seen how people react in these different
environments, with both the job market, in relationships, and just being yourself. Now its already a given; being in a bigger
market often mean more jobs & better jobs.
I have stayed in a smaller market, there are more slim pickings & a
lot of jobs around here are more about who you know than what you know, that is
even how I landed my present job. I had
people here shocked that I was a black man w/ an education, & turned their
backs w/o doing their background check on me, keep in mind I came back to HS to
keep a lookout on my family. But
recently I have been getting more & more people telling me that my mom
& sis would be fine w/o me, so I am venturing out other options outside of
the city.
Also w/ relationships & being yourself, it does go hand
in hand. Some people in smaller cities may
feel they don’t have other options, so they go for the best option that is
around. Yes, I heard numerous times
because Im from Arkansas,
I have a taste for women in my bloodline lol.
I know that Jerry Springer is somewhat fake, but I have known those type
of situations to happen where family members fought over people to date. In a bigger market, people have that
confidence that they are gonna meet someone that will be their match &
someone that the family likes. Also seen
it here where theres more interracial dating happening in a small town because
it’s the easier option & you are lonely, more likely in a bigger
population, if you go into a interracial relationship, its because you have
chemistry w/ that other person.
Basically, a lot of people in smaller towns are not as comfortable being
by themselves because there is nothing much else to get into. But myself going from a small city to big
city, my taste in women has improved.
Most of the women I have dated the past 10 or something years have goals
for themselves, also most of them either had a college degree or was pursuing
one. I want to date a woman that is
happy w/ themselves, not one that has low self-esteem.
Now w/ the 3rd point is how Im closing out: Some
people feel that they could be a better person if they went to a bigger city or
be themselves. I remember watching a
talk show where a guy came out as gay to his live-in girlfriend, we also saw
his boyfriend that he was undercover w/ & he told him that since he lived
in a small town, he couldn’t be the person he actually wanted to be. I am a heterosexual person, but I understood
the point in this. Opportunity
wise, it would be cool to move to a larger environment, but relationship &
self wise, you gotta be honest w/ yourself.
What I want to tell people in small cities is that you deserve that
right to be happy, yet you have to realize that w/ venturing out, you
understand you will have someone that is meant for you, you don’t have to fight
someone for someone who is suppose to be your soulmate & you don’t have to
settle in a bad relationship, just staying until hopefully something better
comes along; be happy w/ being single. Sometimes
if you can focus more on improving yourself than being in a relationship, the
right relationship will come to you. You
also have that right to be yourself & you have to be strong to be yourself
& who YOU want to be, if you are saying you have to go to a diff city to be
yourself, you are not really that strong of a person.
Deuces, but really 5’s lol.
That’s all for today
