Art of Karma

Been an alright weekend. Here at work, my work has been up & down today because of the weekend maintenance they had thats mow making our computers running slow today.

So a interesting thing happened to my lil sister Saturday. During 4th of July weekend, me & sis went downtown & I took her to do some light shopping. We walked into some type of retro store and she saw one of those fake nose rings she was taking about earlier. She went ahead and bout one, even paid for it out of her own pocket, and told me she didn’t want to tell mom that she bought it knowing she might disapprove. Fast forward to Saturday, we go & visit an old neighbor’s house, and she decides to wear it, keep in mind we were visiting a 69 yr old woman. We leave right before dark, and on the way home (we walked because it was close by), it pops off her nose, the top part she finds yet cant find the bottom magnet part to keep it on. She look around the area for an hour yet doesn’t find it, I ended up taking her home. I told her she really couldn’t be in a foul mood at home because she lost something she knew she wasn’t supposed to have yet & mom would ask her why she was in a foul mood & my sis couldn’t really tell her why she was mad.

This is what I believe to be one of my sister’s first incidents involving Karma. She tried to get something that she knew might make mom upset, then suddenly she lose it. Then she got mad about it. She may not understand it now, but she may down the line. That’s how I see it w/ many people these days. Some of us just do whatever we want & we act like karma doesn’t exist, but it happens. I was watching this movie on Lifetime, about a woman who found out another woman is after her husband. Later we found out in the movie that a long time ago, her husband was previously married & the wife herself was a side chick at the time, so what goes around comes around. But what bothers me is that some people get affected by bad karma & act like it wasn’t supposed to happen. I notice a lot of people out here want to have these funky attitudes out here. Keep in mind, if you are willing to have these attitudes w/ people, be ready to receive it from people as well. Also, if you are willing to spread other people's business around, get ready for yours to spread out as well.

Also, you have people out here that want to act like they have that right to choose their punishment. That’s the beauty of bad karma: you cant choose your punishment. Even if you are a man or woman, if you know you did something wrong, people have that right to get mad. You end up attacking someone, what makes you thing they not going to attack you?? In a relationship, if you cheat, what makes you think you are not gonna pay for it?? What makes you think your significant other is only gonna act in a certain way you want?? What makes you thing you are guaranteed forgiveness??

But that’s just my thing on this topic, getting this off my chest. Moral of the Story: Don’t do or act the way you don’t want to be treated, don’t do anything you don’t want to pay for later on

The Wrong Proposal

I was actually typing up a different blog yet this have been heavy on my mind. If you havent heard, there was something on the news about a Dallas Cowboys WR name Roy Williams who proposed to girlfriend in a "special" way. He sends off a $75K ring in the mail along w/ a videotape of himself proposing to her. Now she declines his proposal, yet he hasnt received the ring back. She claimed that she returned the ring back in the mail, then we finding out that her dad has the ring so he's going to return it. So now Roy is taking her to court to try to get the ring back.


From a Yahoo.com Article:

"Williams was born in Odessa, Texas, in Ector County, about 350 miles west of Dallas. According to the lawsuit, filed in Ector County District Court on June 30, Brooke Daniels contacted Williams “shortly before Valentine’s Day” and asked for $5,000 for school and dental bills.

Williams sent Daniels the money, a baseball for her brother in an overnight package. He also recorded a marriage proposal and included an engagement ring, the lawsuit said."


I am a huge Dallas Cowboys fan, yet In a way, Roy got what he deserved. Why did you mail off a proposal ring?? This had to be some GOOD pussy if the girl you are dating asking you for $5K, and then you put an engagement ring in the package. Maybe its just me, but I would have held off sending the $5K 1st, I would have been like "Let me see the bill" or even "Have you tried to go to EBAY to get some of the stuff you needed". AND this was the offseason, he could have done it in person if he really loved her. I always thought a man was supposed to be in person when he proposes to his lady, the ONLY way this might have slide was if he was maybe fighting a war overseas. Does this even make him look less of a man?? Probably, he was trying to be fancy when he should have been direct & face-to-face. But I wondered who & how he got this idea?? Did he talk to his boys about this idea?? Would his boys have been like "Yeah Man, go ahead and mail that $75K ring to her"

But also w/ them saying that her DAD got involved, did he really know what was happening in the first place?? Would you allow your daughter to take or ask for $5K from a guy she is only dating?? And how did he get the ring??

Now me, IF I was to proposed to someone, it would be just the 2 of us, FACE-TO-FACE, But also I would never ask someone to marry me in front of a huge crowd, it may be too mych pressure for her to say yes & it may make her feel obligated.

But just getting this off my chest, I know it has nothing to do w/ me, but just hate it when a black man acts stupid like this. Hope the weekend goes well, going to visit an old neighbor to see how she doing.

NOT……….GUILTY

Been a good weekend, took off from some of my writing. Got to kick it w/ my family, my mom cooked out, and I went back to my old neighborhood as well. Went to see my homeboy Nick, there was a rumor saying he was getting married, yet he told me he just got a girl pregnant in another city, he told me that I was getting old & I needed a junior around lmao. Also seen the neighbors I used to live next to, the woman lost her husband almost a year ago, she haven’t seen much of her family, so I told her that I would visit her from time to time, I may take my sis there to kick it, I even offered to cut her grass this weekend if the lawn needed it, she 69 yrs old. I ended up making some money this past Saturday, my friend’s mom had me all this furniture from her office to storage, she just dropped the envelope in my mailbox unexpectantly later that night. Got to also watch some movies, Got to see Black Swan for the first time, they were just a bunch of freaks in it, Imma buy it at Wal-Mart lol. That cousin that called me Thursday night that wanted to stay the night, never called me until Saturday night, she went to Lil Rock, missed her call the 1st time that night, but she wanted me to pay for her a car battery, didn’t even explain what happened Thursday night, Imma just watch her calling me from now on.

Heard the verdict yesterday, and I was a little shocked. I was still reading about the incident & how everything came to this point. It was just that it was almost drawn out like that episode of Law & Order SVU, the one w/ Hillary Duff in it. The mother claims she doesn’t know where the child is & makes up a false Hispanic babysitter. 31 days, how you not gonna notice your child gone for 31 days?? But some people started to make this a race issue: A white girl was found making lies about her daughter’s “disappearance” and was found Not Guilty. And Im finding out the attorney reppin her was barred from law at one point. I think its more of a fear that some black people are having: White people are getting away w/ stuff. Lindsey Lohan, Ben Rothlesburger, and now Casey Anthony. To white people, you are getting a stigma that you cannot take care of your kids, you may need to fix some things. May just look at some other things as well. Im just thankful my mom loved me to take care of me.

Im bout to doze off, been up since about 3am, had the itis from that chicken & rice last night.

Friday but don't feel like it

Nothing much on the front end today. Somehow woke up & had for breakfast..............fishsticks, I sometime eat leftovers for breakfast. So basically for about the 2nd time in a row, my cousin didnt come over when she said she was coming over. She calls me around 8:30ish last night talking about she had an argument w/ her hotel roommate & wanted to stay the night at my place, but she never called me back last night & hasnt called me yet today. But the thing is that this is like the 3rd or 4th time she called me because she gotten into an argument w/ someone & wanted to stay at my crib, all in diff cities & diff people. Im at the point of telling her she need to watch her fuse & learn to be more patient w/ people, I know sometimes it may not be her fault but if she getting common results w/ diff people & diff locations, something is going on.

But also last night, was gonna go into chill mode, yet my sister's dad made a surprise visit to see his daughter. I dont know how long he gonna be in the city, yet my sister is just kicking it w/ him. Me & dude have our differences yet as long as he trying to be a good dad to my sis, he cool w/ me. He already talked to me saying he wanted to put in on the $344 for my sis's cheerleader items in the fall, I first said I could cover the whole thing myself, yet now its less money coming out of my pocket. Im just happy that my sister has some things her age that I didnt have; her dad, her grandfather, and a big brother to watch out to her.

I was gonna have a drink last night but between my cousin saying she was coming over & other people around, I just fell asleep, it was just a long day. Been a good while since I had a drink mostly because Ive been too busy & dont do it during weekdays because I know Im gonna be running in the morning the next day.

I do feel a lil bad Im not being up w/ the news this week. Gonna try to look more in the Casy A. case. What hurt me was in the front page of the paper, A nearby youth center had to shut its doors & suspend their summer camp for the youth of my city. What the paper said was that the center had to suspend operations because they were supposedly have been approved for a grant for the summer program yet never got the funding yet. What got me as well was that all the kids were african american & the parents were working parents who couldnt afford to put their kids in any other program. The article said that the parents & kids came thru Thursday morning & saw the doors were shut, no notice beforehand because the vote to suspend the program came Wednesday night. I just hope its not gonna be a race thing, if it was a more white populated area of town, would the program still be open??

To close out today, I just want to leave something that may be helpful, I decided to put these on my wall as well to see what happens:

Mantras from Hill Harper’s Book which was inspired by business consultant Gary Takacs

I promise:

-To be strong so that nothing can disturb my peace of mind

-To make everyone feel that there is something special in them

-To look at the positive side of everything and make my optimism come true

-To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own

-To learn from the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future

-To have a cheerful presence at all times and give every living creature I meet a smile

-To give so much time and effort to the improvement of myself that I have no time to criticize others

-To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble

-To be a light for others, not a judge of others


Have a great weekend & be careful out there.

Well..................

The holiday weekend has officially started for me, yet Just been a lil bored today. Been cleaning house all day today, my cousin wants to come & take a visit tonight, really dont know what to expect. Im deciding to spend the whole weekend w/ the family, yet my mom still hasnt decided what she wants to do, one min she saying Missouri City, the next she says Texarkana. We were supposed to have a reunion this time in Texarkana this weekend but because of my Great-Grandmother's death a month ago, they decided to cancel it. I just haven't heard anything from my dad's side of the family so Im guessing they not doing anything this year. It was in the front page of our newspaper that because of the storms we had our burn ban lifted in the area, so Im looking for the nearest fireworks stand to go to. But I do remember I have some fireworks in storage, some small wildcats.


But downloading more NeoSoul music for when I travel this weekend, here's one site Im getting some mixes from: NeoSoul Cafe

Also found this song, they said it was released in 04, but it was the 1st time for me hearing it:





Have a good one!!

Good Life vs. Perfect Picture

What is it that you want in life?? Do you have things planned or are you freestyling life?? Im in just one of those deep thoughts today. I know we want to have good things to happen in our lives yet I wonder at times do we actually let life happen or we so focused on making things perfect & look good in front of people, and when things are “suppose” to be in certain ways, as I mean of “Good Life vs. Perfect Picture”.

I know that a lot of women (and some men) want that perfect relationship, but the question is how much stuff are you willing to take to stay in your so-called relationship or family? You may want to be shown as the image of a happy family, boyfriend & girlfriend, husband & wife, but what about certain issues?? Maybe if one of you are bored in the relationship, one of you come out of the closet, or even one of you have problems being faithful. I know that some people may want to get married because they feel if they don’t get married at a certain age, they might look bad in the eyes of other people, I think that’s why some of those ladies act crazy on Bridezillas. Some people are even avoiding marriage counseling because it may reveal things they pretended didn’t exist. Two Examples: 1) In Carl Weber’s So You Call Yourself a Man, the woman walks in the house & sees her hubby taking a blowjob from another man. Instead of accepting he was gay, she wanted to stay w/ him, even offered herself to anal sex & say he can pretend she was a man. 2) In Chasing Destiny, The wife wanted to stay w/ her husband, even when the husband did not want to be w/ her & he made another woman pregnant, even their daughter saw that the man was a whole lot happier when they were split, but the woman wanted that family together, at one point she even said she would allow the other woman to see him if that family could be together.

Its not just about the male & female in the relationship, sometimes kids are involved. A perfect picture of kids is they are good kids, making good grades, maybe great athletes, and may even get into & graduate college. In reality, there are some parents that deal with kids that go away from being what they want, it ranges from different things, kids behaving bad, kids coming out of the closet, even kids in interracial dating. A key thing is that sometimes kids inherit bad spirits from their parents, and some parents act like their kids are not going to act the same way they act, in reality, some kids may pick up bad habits. Even w/ good parents, some may get mad because their kids go a whole different route

I am a big fan of the show Mad Men, although I didn’t start watching it until Season 4. In the earlier seasons, the main character Don Draper & his wife gotten divorce, their 3 kids stayed with the wife, the wife remarries. She now married w/ a man that will help her take care of her 3 kids, she could be able to recover & be happily ever after but there are 2 certain things that’s making her look bad. 1) She is in denial that her daughter is affected by the divorce, she blames her child’s behavior on the death of her grandfather and 2) Although Don Draper is seeing & being there for his kids as a good father, you can see she is upset because he doing very well w/o her, she wanted Mr. Draper to be miserable w/o her around but he’s not. That “perfection” that she was looking for is her & her new hubby w/ 3 good kids, and she was looking for the ex to have a bad life after the divorce. But overall, I know we all may want that “perfect life”, but there may been times where a wrench is thrown in or something unexpected happens, but sometimes its not what happens, but on how we respond to it. And don’t rush things in your life, if it in God’s will & timing, it will happen if you let it.

Tipsy Tuesday

Today was unexpected. Accidentally fell asleep last night around 8 or 9, woke up around 3:30 but got my running in an hour or so later. The strange thing was I re-shaved my head last night expecting to get a tan on my head but today it was raining. So I found out my cousin DC is in my city working for the nearby Walgreens, staying at a hotel on the other side of town, I mentioned in an earlier blog on whether or not she lied about the placement, she claim the job "made" her take the temporary placement in a smaller boring town. We were suppose to meet later today yet she hasnt called me yet on what she wants to do, she had a doctors appt today. I don't know, just have a strange feeling about it, like a gut feeling for some reason. I love my cousin, yet just hope everything is accurate on what she is telling me. I remember that I once helped her w/ some things while she stayed in Memphis while I was in school. A key moment was when I was on my way to Memphis to see my then-girlfriend for V-Day weekend, I went to Little Rock to just drop off my cousin's birthday gift, she was working late, so I got a hotel room & planned to wait on cousin, plus I was half sleep from getting off work. She calls me late after she gets off, and ask if she could stay at my hotel room for the night, she was telling me that her bf somehow left town & she didnt want to be there by herself for the night. When she got to my room, she was asking about Why didnt I have food, wanted money to get food, wanted to drink some liquor, use my laptop for "business", and other random stuff. Strange thing was she was out in the morning before I woke up. But now, she wants me to try to look for her a new bf because she is getting tired of the one she is with now, she claims she hates it w/ her present bf (a frat bro in fact), and she doesnt want to leave him until she found someone else. Overall, I can help her, but Its really not my job to set damn near everything up in her life for her. I can teach her how to fish w/o giving it to her. But I'll just see what happens..........might just take her to Happy Hour @ Oaklawn one of these days.

But as of travel plans, I don't really fully know. New bills have came up, so Im seeing about delaying my Houston trip for the 1st weekend in Aug, getting to see my family and attend the Texas Greek Picnic. Im also researching for my trip next summer to London, want to hit the highlights, mainly the basketball championship & maybe some track meets.

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